2 Most Common Mistakes Made When Getting an Ex Back

Getting your ex back can be one of the biggest challenges of your life. After all, they've broken up because of something you likely did and your ex knows everything about you, so it's hard to show them a reason to come back to you. It's never easy getting an ex back, but here are a couple of tips regarding things to avoid when faced with a breakup

Avoid The Smother

Upon hearing that you are the target of a break up, your instincts will tell you to grab your ex and lock them in your basement forever! OK, maybe you wouldn't take it that far, but you are certainly inclined to text them every five minutes, call them and stop over their house every chance you get. If you do this, you won't be getting an ex back!

What you want to do at the moment of break up is to agree with your ex that it is the best thing for you both. Put up a bit of a fight if you want, but eventually agree with them and part amicably. This will be counter intuitive but is crucial to getting an ex back.

From this point on, avoid any unnecessary contact with your ex. Create separation! As painful as it is, you must stay away because smothering them will not make them feel any better about the prospects of getting back with you.

The separation you create will not only make them feel more attracted to you (because now they can't have you, and people are attracted to things they cannot have) but it will also allow you to create a new side of yourself that they've never seen, to show them that you are getting along just fine without them, perhaps even better.

You can fix a smother if you write a short handwritten letter to them, or leaving them a short message on their answering machine saying what a dunce you've been, and apologizing for any discomfort you might have caused them. Once again, agree with the terms of the breakup and that it is the best thing for you both.

Avoiding (or fixing) the smother will even the playing field and heighten your chances for getting an ex back.

Don't Beg

Another thing to avoid upon hearing the bad news is to beg or expect sympathy. Your feelings are hurt so the first thing you'll want to do is to get sympathy from the very person who has been your emotional support for so long. When that support is gone, it is doubly painful for your heart. Still...avoid doing this because it is never useful in getting an ex back.

People generally do not find depression, sadness or pitiful people attractive, so using this method of getting an ex back will definitely not work. In fact, begging or expecting sympathy may actually drive them further away.

Have some pride and understand that getting an ex back takes time and patience, but it can be done. You have to remember that there are many things that originally attracted your ex to you, and so now you just have to find a way to separate yourself from the attributes that your ex now finds unattractive, create some separation, and come at them from a fresh new angle.

Watch 2 videos that shows you how to train your ex to treat you better and how not to push your ex away again once you have overcome his or her initial resistance.
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